Something that's been on my heart for quite some time; I pray I am able to get it out in a way that is a blessing and an encouragement for those who read it. It seems a bit scattered, so bear with me.
The subject? Submission.
First, let the Word of God speak ...
Ephesians 5:22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Colossians 3:18Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Titus 2:4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
1 Corinthians 11:3But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates [to regard with respect], and esteems him [to prize; to set a high value on]; and that she defers to him [to refer; to leave to anothers judgment and determination.], praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.
[on a side note ... this same Greek word is translated "fear" "afraid" "terror" in other places in the NT.]
Is that a picture of you towards your husband? If it's not, you must examine yourself.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Be careful what you say about your husband in front of others! Even the best intentions can be taken the wrong way.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
I believe women have so much power - they can choose to build their house up, or tear it down. They can 'make or break' the man. We are created to be a help meet to our husband; we are to serve him and help him be the man the Lord wants him to be. We must do whatever needs to be done [with the right Spirit!] so he can better fill his God-given role on this earth. We are NOT to nag at him because he did not do 'this or that'. Take a load off your man and fix it/do it yourself ... with a smile on your face, a song in your heart, and a prayer for him on your lips. Use these times as opportunities to bless and pray for your husband rather than to tear him down, build up bitterness towards him and confusion in the children.
Purposefully look for ways to minister to him and serve him better.
Also, we are to OBEY our husbands ... in everything ... as unto the Lord ... even as the church obeys Christ. This is very far reaching. If he has a way he wants things done, DO IT HAPPILY. A good rule of thumb is to treat your husband as if he were Jesus Christ Himself; ask yourself often, "if he were Jesus, would I be treating him like this?", "if he were Jesus, what more would I be doing?"
Eve tried doing her own thing, and it did not work. We must be in our proper place, sweetly submitting to our husbands and building them up.