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Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Every wise woman buildeth her house ... Proverbs 14:1

Something that's been on my heart for quite some time; I pray I am able to get it out in a way that is a blessing and an encouragement for those who read it.  It seems a bit scattered, so bear with me.

The subject?  Submission.

First, let the Word of God speak ...

Ephesians 5:22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Colossians 3:18Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

1 Peter 3:1Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Titus 2:4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

1 Corinthians 11:3But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.


It takes time to build a house ... but it also takes time to pluck one down.  Woman, how are you treating your husband?  Do you reverence him?  Amplified has this to say about 'reverence':

that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates [to regard with respect], and esteems him [to prize; to set a high value on]; and that she defers to him [to refer; to leave to anothers judgment and determination.], praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly. 

[on a side note ... this same Greek word is translated "fear" "afraid" "terror" in other places in the NT.]

Is that a picture of you towards your husband?  If it's not, you must examine yourself.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 

Be careful what you say about your husband in front of others! Even the best intentions can be taken the wrong way.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

I believe women have so much power - they can choose to build their house up, or tear it down.  They can 'make or break' the man.  We are created to be a help meet to our husband; we are to serve him and help him be the man the Lord wants him to be.  We must do whatever needs to be done [with the right Spirit!] so he can better fill his God-given role on this earth.  We are NOT to nag at him because he did not do 'this or that'. Take a load off your man and fix it/do it yourself ... with a smile on your face, a song in your heart, and a prayer for him on your lips. Use these times as opportunities to bless and pray for your husband rather than to tear him down, build up bitterness towards him and confusion in the children.

Purposefully look for ways to minister to him and serve him better.

Also, we are to OBEY our husbands ... in everything ... as unto the Lord ... even as the church obeys Christ.  This is very far reaching.  If he has a way he wants things done, DO IT HAPPILY.  A good rule of thumb is to treat your husband as if he were Jesus Christ Himself; ask yourself often, "if he were Jesus, would I be treating him like this?", "if he were Jesus, what more would I be doing?" 

Eve tried doing her own thing, and it did not work. We must be in our proper place, sweetly submitting to our husbands and building them up.


  1. Very nice post! I love it, thank you so much for posting, your blog is such an encouragement!

  2. wonderful post Joanne!
    sure gives me something to go back to often for when i am married! ( you know we have similar backgrounds )
    i intend to print this post out and know , God willing, someday, one day, if His will, i will make someone a good wife!!
    the sad but yet good thing is, theres nothing hard to follow to being a good wife! ( or husband )
    just obey God!!!

  3. Joanne, thank you for this post sister. You know me and have lived me with in close quarters, so you know how I am with my husband. I needed to read this to encourage me more fully in the way that I should be walking. Even now with our move, this is a trial and a blessing in one to submit and to honor the decision my husband has made. Please keep me in your prayers. God Bless you greatly for the wisdom you share; I love you dearly sister!

  4. I am so glad for someone who will speak up to this desperate need! God bless you.

  5. Mrs. David White (Laurie)August 10, 2010 at 10:59 AM

    Thank you Joanne. This means a lot to me. I love you Sister and pray for you and your children constantly.

  6. Hi Joanna,
    Nice to "see" you again. This is something that I see quite a bit in the military circles in which I "roam." I hate to hear women "dissing" their husbands too.
    I read a very good book, "The excellent Wife", by Martha Peace, which talks about submission. It's funny how we (American culture) gotten so used to doing our won thing that Godly submission has become a bad thing.
    Praying for you and your family.


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