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Thursday, November 15, 2012

A Good Wife's Guide - Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955.

This supposedly came from Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955, however there is an article on Snopes that says that may or may not be true. Regardless, I appreciate all that is said here except the mention of make-up. My blog readers know by now that I am very against painting your face to change the way the Lord made you. So, here is the "article" - I hope you learn something from it.
  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

  • Be a little gay (that means happy, remember?) and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

  • Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc and then run a dust-cloth over the tables.

  • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

  • Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like seeing them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

  • Be happy to see him.

  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first–remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

  • Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

  • Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

  • Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.

  • Don’t complain if he is late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor to what he might have gone through that day.

  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

  • Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have not right to question him.

  • A good wife always knows her place.
My thoughts: if a woman desires to please the Lord, she WILL please her husband. This list will be a great encouragement to her. Sadly though, most will be looking for or giving excuses. The scriptures say women are to be obedient to their husbands, meek, quiet, chaste, shamefaced, and more. They are to be blameless in the way they live; they are to keep their mouths shut and let the man lead. As David said a few weeks ago: Shut up and be holy. We were created to be their helpers, not their mothers and not the Spirit.


  1. This is so funny! On a serious note though, I disagree that women should be "meek" and subservient to their husbands. God created us equally, He created marriage for a man and woman to find peace and respect in each other - not for one to serve the other and "remember their place" as lower than their spouse. Also, makeup is not changing God's creation, it simply enhances a womans beauty, much like certain types of clothes and jewelry do.

  2. God created us equally to some extent [we are both accountable to God for our actions, etc. and we will both be rewarded what we deserve on the last day, whether eternal punishment or eternal glory] but then not equal when it comes to our different roles here on earth. God is a God of order. The man is the head and the woman is under the man; this is not bondage, it is a blessing!

    I have seen verses in the Quran that speak of women being under the man - like this verse in Sura 4:34-

    "Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand."

    It seems pretty clear to me what that means, but maybe you have a different understanding? The bible is clear as well what the role of men and women are - more clear as far as I can tell - however most professing Christians do not want to believe it.

    Our beauty does not need to be enhanced; it needs to be hidden. Hence the reason for the modest clothing and coverings.

    God bless you.

  3. If you read that verse in Arabic the first part is more of an indication that men are protectors of women rather than in charge of them. Also, the word which is used to apparently tell men to hit their wives actually has dozens of meanings in Arabic, one of which is "leave". I personally believe that this verse tells men to leave their wives as opposed to hit them.

    Anyway, I digress, I do agree with men and women having different roles I just don't see why women should pretty much act like servants as described in the post.

    I think beauty should be lessened around strangers, but enhanced for the husband.

    Anyway, I find your blog interesting and I hope that my difference in opinion does not offend you. :)

  4. This is a very good article. I really like the emphasis on having things comfortable and inviting for husband when he comes home. Thank you for posting.

  5. SM - No offence at all; I appreciate your thoughts, thank you. Yes, enhanced for our husbands: this is good. We must be careful though to keep our beauty hidden from other men so as not to cause them to stumble. If we are all properly in our God-given roles we will be at peace with God and those around us.

    Joanna - I thought the same thing :) One thought in particular is how the brothers and my boys LOVE to have the fire going when they get home. It's a magnet. And some are so thankful for this meal or that meal ... it's rewarding to know you've brightened someones day.

    Lord bless.

  6. Joanne, I enjoyed this article immensely. Thank you for sharing it. There is something that just strikes at the selfish flesh of the heart when things like this are read, doesn't it? I love to serve and bless my husband and desire to grow still more in this, teaching my daughters as well.
    God bless you.

  7. SM, I do have plenty of opportunity to "serve" my husband daily. And I do it gladly. Too often a wife will forget that her husband is doing his fair share of "serving" in an entirely different way. He gets up every weekday, unless he is DOG SICK and goes to work. He fixes vehicles, chops wood, sharpens kitchen knives,remodels the bathroom etc, etc. He serves the world and our family I in turn serve him so as to make him more productive and better able to do his job. I am in NO WAY subservient. I am his equal and he treats me as such. Actually he treats me better than himself often denying himself comforts for my sake. I love serving him. And submission is NEVER forced. If it were, it would then be called slavery. Submission is always given, willingly if it is genuine.

    And he NEVER forces me to do anything. But then maybe I got the best man in the world;) ok at least I think so:):)

  8. What a fun post and a good reminder! Whether or not it actually published as is in Housekeeping monthly, it would have been published in various forms as it was the prevailing thought of the day.

  9. Ami...your words were absolutely perfect. Thank you! Great article...convicting, thanks for posting it Joanne.

  10. I too, enjoyed this article, I wish I could find more articles like this to read more often.

    Ami, I love your reply, how often do women forget that the hard work our husbands do, they do to serve, and to serve without complaints.

    I am blessed to say that my husband makes my life better and easier, and whatever I can do, to make his life a happy one. it is my honor to do.

    Thanks Joanne for this article.

  11. What a great blessing and encouragement! What an absolute contrast to the world today! What a great example of the beauty and sweetness of submission! Just imagine being a man and having such a greeting--it would just give you a lift all day to know what you had to go home to. What a great way to lift up his heart and head and be his sweet comfort! Great reminders! Thanks Joanne!


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