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Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Tattlers, talebearers, slanderers, sowers of discord, gossipers ...

Dear women readers: Today I am going to be addressing a very important, life or death, eternal consequences issue. It is the issue of being a busybody, whisperer, or whatever other adjective fits.

Proverbs 6:16 These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: 17 A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, 18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, 19 A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

Notice that one who sows discord is part of this list. This word 'discord' (Hebrew mĕdan or מְדָן which is strong's #4090) is used a few other times in the Old Testament, one being 'strifes' in this verse:

Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.

Apparently this kind of action stems from hatred, and that makes sense to me because I think you would have to have hatred in your heart if you go so far as to sow discord among brethren.

According to, this same Hebrew word stems from another word - Strong's #4066 madown or מָדוֹן
Here are some verses containing that Hebrew word (in ALL CAPS); most are found in Proverbs. You can read them all for yourself here on blueletterbible.

A wrathful man stirs up STRIFE
A froward man sows STRIFE
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a BRAWLING woman in a wide house.
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a CONTENTIOUS and angry woman.
Cast out the scorner and CONTENTION shall go out; yea, strife and reproach shall cease.
Where no wood is, the fire goes out: so where there is no talebearer, the STRIFE ceases.
As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a CONTENTIOUS man to kindle strife.
He that is of a proud heart stirs up STRIFE
An angry man stirs up STRIFE

From this I see that one who sows discord or strife or is contentious is also full of wrath, froward [perverse, foolish], angry, scornful, a talebearer, and proud. No wonder the Lord hates this!!

This all made me think of the verse in 1 Timothy where it warns about idle women who go about from house to house speaking things they should not be speaking. "Tattlers and busybodies." These kind of women are sowing discord among the brethren. Slanderers. This is corrupt. And I'm not sure right now where this all fits in, but Jeremiah 6 also came to mind.

Women: let us be very careful to choose our words wisely. Are we saying things we should not be saying? Are our words sowing discord? Causing strife and division? This is hatred and it is straight from Satan. Who are you serving?

I encourage us all to "open our mouths with wisdom" and be sure that "the law of kindness is in our tongues." Proverbs 31:26 If you have an issue, don't go around telling others about it, take it to your husband and let him deal with it. If you do not have a husband, take it to an elder or other trusted brother in your life. If you are young, take it to your father. If it's an issue with a sister, ask for counsel on how you should handle it. DO NOT go around telling others (especially other women) your issues with another sister. If you do this, you are sowing discord and God hates this. Instead of sowing discord, sow seeds of kindness and love. Pray for the sister and the situation. Look for ways to reach out and bless the sister. Also be sure to look at yourself: maybe you are part of the problem? Or maybe it's all just a matter of a misunderstanding that got blown way up for lack of resolving it sooner? Or maybe that sister just had a really bad day or some kind of trial she is going through and you caught her at the wrong time? A weak moment? (like you have never had a weak moment?!) Maybe she needed a silent prayer instead of a critical eye?

Let us build each other up, not tear each other down. Let us love and Christ loved; he is our example.


  1. Well said, Joanne. A respected elder once said that the greatest danger to churches is women who are out of their place. Rachel

  2. Thank you Rachel, I agree 100%. God bless you and your family; I pray all is well.

  3. Another thought for the post: if someone really did do you wrong, that is the perfect time to practice non-resistance. Often it's just better to keep quiet rather than confronting the offender, pray for the person, look for ways to bless them, and let the Lord deal with whatever wrong was done on their end.

  4. Excellent post. Some days are harder than others. We are taught from a young age to "stand up for ourselves" and to "speak out". Having others speak out against you and not "defending" yourself can leave you feeling in a lonely, secluded place. The need for "approval" is not a lot of fun :)

    Well written Joanne, thank you for your words today.

  5. Another thought... Notice how these verses are geared toward the women, seems women are more vengeful then men.

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